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Serving God Through Humanity
As you begin your journey together as a family, begin with the name of Allah. Enter your home saying 'Bismillah & Assalamu alaykum' out loud. Then pray 2 rakah together, the man leading while the woman follows. This is:
a way of showing gratitude to Allah for: sparing your lives, bringing you together as husband and wife, granting you the grace of conducting the nikkah/walimah smoothly e.t.c.
indication of starting your life with obedience to Allah
indicating your husband is to lead, lead you away from jahannam to jannah.
to declare your home a mihram i.e. place of payer where no evil forces or influences can reside.
On your first night together, take alight meal and have a chat. It's not all about sex, talk about your likes and dislikes, turn-ons/offs, daily/ weekly or monthly routines that you'll both love to implement in the home.
From now on, in this 'ocean' life, it is 'us/we' navigating together and NOT 'I' alone in this marriage 'boat' striving together to reach our destination 'jannah'. The winds and waves directing the journey are the Qur'an and the sunnah of Muhammad (PBUH). The best sustenance for this journey is the taqwa (fear) of Allah azzawajal.
Know your worst enemy (shaytan) who will come and whisper evil thoughts every now and then and strive to defeat him together by holding together to the rope of Allah
As with every castle, let your home as a castle reflect who the queen is and who is king.
As you will learn the language of a computer so as to use it to benefit yourself, learn the 'language' of your spouse so as to understand them and have a happy marriage.
Be mature in marriage. Marriage is not holly/nolly or bollywood, it is real life so be real, both with yourself and your spouse. You have to go to work, cook the meals, clean the house,e.t.c.
Never compare! You will only know well enough about your own situation and never can you have enough details about other persons' life for an accurate comparison. Also,never can your unique characteristics in marriage be exactly the same.
FULFILL your RESPONSIBILITIES before asking for your rights. That means in the first place that you have to know what your responsibilities in marriage are.
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